Amuses-Bouches, etc....

If you ever want to see me search for words and put me ill at ease, ask for my menu.

An itemized list of services or acts is so far from my vision of what I chose to offer as a companion that I don't know what to answer.

A menu just doesn't seem to be a good standard to set - it strikes me as impersonal, and inadequate to establish if a meeting will be pleasant and fulfilling.
If anything, I'm closer to a private chef than a crowded Yelp reviewed hot spot. If I prepare the same experience day in and day out, I'll get bored of it - and it risks becoming boring.

So how do you make sure you'll be meeting up with someone who has the same tastes as you?

Contrary to what many think, setting up a first encounter is simple enough, actually. Not very different of getting any other kind of first contact with someone - as long as politeness and respect are present, I'm personally very open to meeting with people of various backgrounds. 

My open mindedness does have its boundaries though - I simply cannot promise a hundred per cent a certain kind of service to someone I have yet to see face to face.

That, for me, is part of being independent in the way I meet people. The fact that I am perfectly at ease to set limits, voice what I don't wish to partake in and ask for what I desire makes my encounters unique and authentic - and that is very precious to me.

So, what should you expect from your first meeting with an independent companion?

First and foremost, expect to meet a person. Many reputable companions go to great lengths in order to put media out that reflects who they are in an honest way. Twitter, websites and blogs are out there to help you find someone with who you'll be able to build chemistry.

For me, companionship is about sharing time and experiences - which ones are entirely up to us to discuss. Communication  is key - without knowing what you gravitate towards, it will be harder for your companion to offer you the best possible meeting. 

So rather than ask for a list of services straight out the gate, take the time to figure out what would make an encounter truly magical to you.

Is it heading out in the cobbled streets of Old Montreal after a great diner and signing sweet love songs? Is it spending some time at a risque soiree you've heard about but are too timid to go to alone? Is it enjoying the opera knowing your date for the evening is not wearing underwear?

Search for what awakes your senses - a little bit of introspection might bring some delicious spices to the table, so to speak

So now, how do you get in touch?

Sure, most ladies offer one or more ways to contact them on their website - however, a few details on how you contact someone will have a direct impact on whether they get back to you or not. In other words, paying attention to the way you introduce yourself could hold the key to an electric encounter. 

Some courtesans are a little shy when it comes to graphic language. Others, less so. Reading their websites and their Twitter will give you a little insight. Try to take the general vibe of  the person into account when you imagine a rendez-vous with them. 

If you have specific desires, try to voice them in a clear, respectful way.

Should your requests be of an erotic scenario, please use your words in a concise and respectful manner, avoiding pornographic links. Having opened sensitive material in public in the past, I can assure you it is the absolute best way for me to not contact you back! 

Discretion is key, especially when meeting for the first time.

Always remember that a first meeting can feel very intimidating for the companion you wish to share your time with. Even with the security checks we perform, there's no way of knowing for sure how a first date is going to go. We rely very heavily on our gut instinct, and for me, inability to communicate clearly or the slightest deviation from a well established plan is a red flag.

Carefully considered, I think it's self evident why that is - if I'm having trouble getting heard before the meeting even starts, it does not bode well for the meeting itself.

So if your research is done correctly, if your introduction seems a good fit for the companion and if common ground is found schedule-wise, what can you expect?

To share a moment with someone where chemistry is the focus, and the present moment is all that matters.

That's at least how I think things should be.

xxox,

Mlle L

http://www.indycompanion.com/lorence-vennes

@MlleVennes